Being a mum is not a part time activity for evenings and weekends

Sometimes I ponder in front of a cup of coffee, and I think at how my life would be if I went back to work.

Every now and then I miss that social aspect of being in work, having a conversation that goes further than 3 random words put together, a conversation that doesn’t include the word potty, nap and toys.

Then again, I think I have the best job I could wish for. I’m a mum.

I’m surely not good at it yet, I’m still very new at the job. I had already my fair share of laughs, tears, boredom, excitements, and small satisfaction… sometimes all of them in the same day!

Being a mum! I’m not even sure I can call it a job, maybe it’s a passion, a vocation, or a call, perhaps.

Not many people call it a job anymore. There is a veil of shame that surrounds the concept of being a full-time mum, staying at home looking after the family and home. Countless times I heard people call it a lazy life, spoilt life, and even life of leisure. People need to be clearer on the definition of leisure.

When I was little, mothers were considered the head of the family, the ones in charge of keeping the day to day family life running smoothly. They were strong, resilient, they were determined and accountable.

What happened to these women? Where did they all go? To work, I guess.

We are in a new era, an era in which women want a career, in which women want the same rights of man, in which been proud goes hand in hand with a prestigious job position.

I might be old-fashioned, but I’m proud of being a stay-at-home mum. I like to wake up in the morning to prepare breakfast for my husband before he leaves for work, I’m glad he knows dinner will be ready on the table by the time he returns home. I love playing with my son and look at him growing up day after day.

I know I’m lucky, I had the opportunity to give up my job. I know that that’s not common anymore. Many families would struggle to get to the end of the month with only one income, so I understand that sometimes it’s not even a choice. Working mums deserve even more praises for what they do.

I know I will now make few people shake their heads in disapproval, but in this era of feminism and emancipation, some of the family values got lost and forgotten. I still believe that being a mum is not a part-time activity for evenings and weekends. Being a mum is hard work, and takes time to perfect. Some people make it look easy and natural, but believe me when I say it is not! Not for me at least. And it’s sad to see all these efforts go unnoticed!

So, for this Mother’s Day, let’s all truly appreciate those women who so tirelessly work behind the scene to make everyone feel at home, and those who manage to juggle work and home and still get it right.

Happy Mother’s Day to all.