I found that in the training for adoption much of the focus is on the many problems that a child removed from his family could present, and there’s little or no mention of possible solutions. It’s all very disheartening, I can’t be the only one who noticed that.

But one of the last courses I attended was different, though, it was about attachment theory. The term meant absolutely nothing to me, and the course could only give us a brief introduction to this (I later found out) enormous subject.

It is a beautifully intuitive theory, and it seems to work in practice too. I decided I had to learn more about it, so I set out to find a book about it.

There are many, many books about on the matter, but everything I read made what I thought was a simple theory overly complex. Most books try to prove that the theory is sound, and is applicable. I didn’t need that, I was already sold on the idea, I just needed to learn about the principles and how to apply them.

After many failed attempts I found the book I was after, and it had the most curious title:

attachment-in-common-sense-and-doodle

It is written by Miriam Silver, a consultant clinical psychologist who hasn’t lost the ability of keeping things simple.

The author explains attachment without assuming you have any prior knowledge of the subject. She describes the issues encounter by children and families she helped in her own job, and how the ideas behind attachment theory had helped overcoming their obstacles.

The doodle bit in the titles refers to the diagrams scattered over the entire book (doodles, really) used to explain and simplify many principles of attachment.

The book is intended for foster carers and adoptive parents, but I would urge anyone who is about to become parent to read it first.


attachment-theory

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